Sending your children off to school is one of the most heart-wrenching moments in a mother’s life (and it doesn’t seem to get easier the older they get). When they were a tiny bundle wrapped in your arms, you promised to forever love and protect them, but there’s no way you can do this when you send them into the big wide world. We lay awake at night with our fears looping around our head like they’re in the Daytona 500:
Will they be bullied?
Will they be the bully?
Will they be liked?
Are they smart enough? Tough enough? Kind enough?
Will they remember all the things I’ve taught them?
What if something terrible happens, who will be there to protect them?
I got an extra dose of this fear last year when my oldest daughter started middle school. For days I lived in panic, like if I was sending my lamb into the lion’s den. But after a few weeks, my fears calmed because Charis was going to be just fine. She found sweet friends, loved her teachers, and completely ignored the rude older kids.
Then, it all came to a head one morning. She woke up to text from her friend saying she was sick and wouldn’t be at school, leaving Charis with no one to eat lunch with and on top of that she was taking her first math test. It was just too much unknown for her and she hit her breaking point.
The entire morning she tearfully begged me to let her stay home. My bleeding mama’s heart wanted to grant her her wish because I knew her pain was real, her fears were legitimate. It was my wise motherly mind that knew this was a very important life lesson to never run from your problems or hide from the unknown. So, I opted to talk her into going.
By the time we got into the car, she was in near hysteria. None of my encouraging words were working. That’s when genius struck.
“I’ll be right back.” I hopped out of the car and ran into the house, leaving my stunned tearstained child in the car. I ran into my bathroom and rummaged through my dish of Lillian & Co. bracelets looking for the perfect one. I found just what I was looking for and dashed back out the door.
I don’t remember exactly what I said, but as I squeezed, “You’re Braver Than You Believe” around her tiny wrist, I reminded her that I believed in her, that she was brave. When she felt afraid, she could look at her bracelet and know that no matter what she got on the test or who she sat by at lunch, everything was going to be ok.
It was exactly what she needed to find the strength to face her day. She dried her tears, smiled sheepishly, and nodded that she was ready to go.
Seven hours later, I picked up a beaming little girl. She felt great about her test and she found a boy who was in one of her classes, who up until that day had been eating alone. We chatted all the way home about her wonderful day and how much my gift to her helped her get through.
It wasn’t the bracelet that gave her strength. It was a reminder of something that was already there.
One of our mommy customers, Esther, shares how she wears Lillian & Co. bracelets to stay connected to her children when she’s not with them:
As a Mom, it’s always difficult being away from my little ones. I bought a bracelet to represent each of my kids. I say the message on the bracelet every night at bedtime; each child knows which bracelet is for them and knows I will think of them when I’m away.